If you are asking yourself and anybody else who will listen, “Do I need relationship help?”, then my response would be, if you are asking the question the answer is probably yes. No relationship is perfect and neither are the two individuals trying to make a go of it. Each one involved brings their own unique set of qualities to a relationship, good and bad.
Since we are all products of how we were raised, if your parents had a good relationship, respected each other, listened to one another and didn’t fight about everything under the sun then you were shown your entire young life how to have a good relationship. Your parents gave you the tools you need to have a successful, loving relationship and you probably didn’t even realize it.
On the other hand, if your parents didn’t have a good relationship, disrespected each other, ignored each other and fought about anything and everything, they gave you a whole different set of tools. If this is the case, it is understandable why you are asking, “Do I need relationship help?”
If you do find yourself asking this question, good for you, this is a positive step believe it or not. It means you are willing to do whatever it takes to improve on yourself and become a true partner in your relationship. If you and your significant other are on the same page then you can both grow together and no one gets left behind.
So, where do you find the information you need to improve a relationship? There are several places you can look.
1. Self-help books – a good resource for insight into what it takes to have a good relationship. You don’t get any feedback from a book so there will be some trial and error to find what works for your relationship and what doesn’t.
2. Counseling – a third party to listen and offer advice when the problems seem too big to handle on your own. You will get plenty of feedback here so be prepared.
3. Your parents – They can give you a wealth of information on how they managed to stay married for as long as they have. Just remember, everyone is different and so is every situation. Don’t try to be your parents, be yourself. Don’t get too specific, try to talk in general terms when involving your parents, they worry about you enough.
4. Your significant other – Yes, yes and yes! Who else would you talk to about YOUR relationship? You would think this would be a no-brainer but you would be surprised at how may people start to see their partner as their enemy, instead of their ally, when things aren’t going well.
So if you are insightful enough to ask, “Do I need relationship help?” then also be open to trying every single suggestion or recommendation given to you to help improve your relationship. It will definitely be worth all the hard work.